Jane ParkinsonI am a registered UKCP psychoanalytic psychotherapist with over twenty years of clinical experience.I trained at the Bowlby centre and work from an attachment perspective with an interest in stress related illness and TMS/PPD.
Attachment-based psychotherapy has at its core an understanding of the importance of relationships to human growth and development throughout life. Secure and supportive relationships enable us to develop a sense of who we are. When we feel alone, or relationships go wrong in childhood or adulthood, our ability to manage our lives may be disrupted or even thrown into crisis.
Secure boundaries and confidentiality provide a safe setting that can enable clients to share experiences and feelings that they may not have been able to talk about before. Long term healing of distress, anxiety or depression involves getting in touch with the underlying experiences and emotions to promote creative change in your life.
Repressing feelings after trauma such abandonment or childhood abuse can help us to function but the unconscious will find a way of us feeling the pain.Sarno talks of repressed rage which is understandable in a child who is so dependent on their primary caregivers for survival and may be experiencing the terrible fear of abandonment.
Alice Miller the psychoanalyst who wrote 'For Your Own Good' described how children protect their parents in order to salvage some hope of having their needs fulfilled and in the process have to repress their true needs.Long term suffering could be avoided only ,in her opinion,if the child had an adult in his or her life who could acknowledge the reality of their experience.